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So anyone can start a new path and its legit?
And can you be a member of multiple Kehillos, simultaneously? What if there is a conflict in minhagim between them?
Infatuation is good? I suppose so is love of sugary foods.
more: Using your argument, you should feel dating like the goyim, for 4-5 years before marriage, is the way to go. Or at least dating like the MO, for 1-2 years before marriage. The fact is they don’t work and are much worse than dating, or beshowing, much less. You’ll NEVER REALLY get to know a person until you are married to them. Even if you dated them 5 years beforehand.
You aren’t allowed to have an ongoing rear view of them walking, according to the S”A.
The mere fact that vast amounts of Gedolei Yisroel sit on the dais at the Siyum HaShas in New York, Eretz Yisroel and many many cities around the world. Including almost the entire slate of the Moetzes Gedolei HaTorah, both in the U.S. and in E.Y., speaks volumes about their support for the Daf Yomi system.
And to top that off, not that the above point even needs any additional support, the total lack (or close thereof) of any public dissenters, against the Daf Yomi system by any Rov of stature, speaks volumes too. Their silence is deafening.
Money talks.March 15, 2012 12:44 am at 12:44 am in reply to: Do any Brooklyn Rabbonim say its OK to report molesters to police first? #860104
apushutayid: cherrybim is correct. Rav Elyashev shlit”a, may the RBS’O return him to the best of health, paskened that “raglayim ldavar” must first be established to permit reporting. Without that, says the posek hador, it is against the Torah to report. And being raglayim ldavar is a halachic determination, it needs to be first so determined by a posek, on a case-by-case basis, something I believe is specifically stated in Rav Elyashev shlita’s psak.
Anyone who would like a PBA card, can buy one on eBay. (They are not a government document and it is not issued to any party, and is entirely legal.)
This is truly a catastrophic loss for World Jewry. We need to do Mitzvos and build up on zechusim to makeup for this tragic loss.March 14, 2012 9:42 pm at 9:42 pm in reply to: Do any Brooklyn Rabbonim say its OK to report molesters to police first? #860097
Rav Elyashev said the only time it is permitted is if “raglayim ldavar” exists.
Is it practical for someone to become Chasidish at the time he first becomes frum? How or why not?March 14, 2012 12:40 pm at 12:40 pm in reply to: Sephardim, Marriage, Gittin, and Cherem Rabbeinu Gershom #901481
You mean she can be divorced for any reason whatsoever, but then he has to pay her kesuba. But if he divorces her because she burnt his supper, she doesn’t get paid the kesuba, since halachicly that is “cause” for him to divorce her?
My rebbeim taught us to avoid gifts.
Wasn’t it the CHOFETZ CHAIM who said he is mekane Rav Meir Shapiro’s chelek in Olam Habo, since Rav Shapiro will be crowned there with all the Mesechtes, whereas till then most Mesechtes were neglected and unlearned?
HaLeiVi: Please elaborate on the three categories.
That doesn’t mean you disregard another part of the Torah.
The Torah teaches us we should hate and (at least when possible) decline gifts.
Does anyone else agree or disagree with “dd”?
Divorce should always be an absolute last last resort. And even then it should be ascertained, and thought over and over, if it is at all avoidable. And that really is the bottom line. It is way over-utilized with destructive results.
How best to explain to the person offering it, why you are declining the gift?
What are sporks?
Is Bassheva one word or two?March 14, 2012 12:46 am at 12:46 am in reply to: Sephardim, Marriage, Gittin, and Cherem Rabbeinu Gershom #901478
S2021: How do Sefardi wives serve their husband?
I concur with soliek. In Boro Park you can hardly walk a few feet without getting a bunch of Good Shabbos’.
White bridal gown
Wedding ring for bride
Vorts didn’t start by goyim. Birthday parties did. (Romans?)
No doubt, OneOfMany, that there is a time and place for divorce. It needs to be an available tool, and it is. And there are unfortunate times where, as a last resort, it should be utilized. Nevertheless, we can still observe that those cases are few and far in between. The rampant usage of this tool is both unfortunate and unnecessary. And causes untold and avoidable damage.
No doubt. Which is another reason they may remain single indefinitely.
How does one balance their daily diet (carbs/whole-grain/protein/etc.)?
I believe that in the frum community, the incidence of long-term unmarried divorced women is notably greater than that of similar men. Similarly, divorced men tend to remarry quicker than divorced women (that end up remarrying.)
Yaff80: That extra factor in favor of men is, I believe, significant.
As far as the conclusion of the OP, I’ve also heard Rabbonim, in shiurim, beseech people not to too quickly divorce (they felt that it occurs far more than necessary), and opine that post-divorce life, in many many cases, is no improvement over married life — even a difficult marriage.
It was a personal observation of societal reality. It was not meant to be judgemental, and I’m sorry you thought it so. It was a general observation leading to its conclusion. And not intended to refer to any specific person.
But, harsh, yes. It is that. Though accurately, unfortunately.
My rebbi taught us we aren’t allowed to walk behind, or between, women or girls.
If someone is declining it for the right reasons (per the pasuk), how best to decline it?
And what are examples of when it is good to reject a gift?