July 22, 2010 9:16 pm at 9:16 pm #592014
anyone know of names and numbers of chassidishe shadchanim in NY and NJ area?July 23, 2010 1:13 pm at 1:13 pm #1120192
Thanks for the great list, unfortunately, most of these people won’t give you the time of day, if you don’t have the right “name, yichus, or bank account”.(with emphasis on bank account)Phone calls are never returned and on the rare occasion that you do get a hold of them, they are very curt and quick to get off the phone. Granted, there are some who do it lishma, but many of them demand exhorbitant fees- $3000-5000.00. Since when did shadchanus become such big business.July 23, 2010 1:22 pm at 1:22 pm #1120193
Thanks! this list is def long and thorough…is anyone familiar with the list that can point out which of these shadchanim work with the more chassidishe/boro park circles?July 23, 2010 2:26 pm at 2:26 pm #1120194
Try Mechel Brinner of BP 718-633-4142July 23, 2010 3:21 pm at 3:21 pm #1120195
“Since when did shadchanus become such big business.”
Supply & demand, mamala.July 23, 2010 3:27 pm at 3:27 pm #1120196
So, are you saying the wonderful Jewish girls are overstocked, that their worth is based only on dollars and cents. Divorces have become rampant in the so called “frum” community because, unfortunately, people are looking for the wrong thing. Whatever happened to working and bringing in a salary. What has happened to one’s pride of doing things on one’s own and not being beholden to a father-in law.
EDITEDJuly 23, 2010 3:38 pm at 3:38 pm #1120197
cookie, were you tslking to me? I meant the demand for shadchanim and meager supply of this precious commodity.July 25, 2010 10:48 pm at 10:48 pm #1120198
Cookie – seems like you post is off base.July 26, 2010 12:09 am at 12:09 am #1120199
Thanks for the great list, unfortunately, most of these people won’t give you the time of day, if you don’t have the right “name, yichus, or bank account”.(with emphasis on bank account)
Dont give up that easily. If shadchan wont “give you the time of day” then chances are your bashert will be from the same category so that sort of shadchan probably wont be of much help to you. Remember you only need one.
Hatzlacha!July 26, 2010 12:59 am at 12:59 am #1120200
do you realize that some of these shadchanim receive over 100 phone calls per day? What do you expect from them? They are only human!!July 26, 2010 2:08 am at 2:08 am #1120201
Daven HaKadosh Baruch Hu is Mizaveg Zivugim… the shadchan is a shliach So Daven, have Bitachon yes, IY”H BeKarov!
Be referred to the shadchan, email them, call them, text them call in the mornings!!!!!
some have certain hours— be considerate if your polite they’ll be nice too!
call back once they redd a shidduch in a timely manner
speak respectfully, if the shidduch’s not for you don’t say anything that could hurt the other party involved (he’s ugly etc.)– its just not for you
Hatzlacha IY”H everyone should find their besherte bkarov!July 26, 2010 6:12 am at 6:12 am #1120202
There is also a guy named Yeedle Oshry and another one called Orenstein.
You’ll have to find their numbers as I dont have them at hand..July 26, 2010 1:08 pm at 1:08 pm #1120203
Thanks for your words of chizuk, and yes, I do realize that people are very busy, but there is no need to be rude. If they find it gets to be too much, than leave the work to someone else. However, I still feel that the best boys are redd only to girls who come from certain “types’ of backgrounds and are promised certain things. (and I can vouch for this because I married off boys and every shadchan called with the same names). I don’t want to put the blame solely on the shadchannim , mother’s of sons also want to ‘auction’ their sons to the highest bidder, and make sure that they will be taken care of forever and ever.July 26, 2010 2:09 pm at 2:09 pm #1120204
i think mrs. silverstein in the israel list doesn’t want to be on lists. that’s what she told me anyway, that she only takes people who were directly referred by someone that she knows. she’s great by the way; it’s worth it if you live here to find someone who knows her, just to have the experience of meeting a nice shadchante. (can you tell i don’t like shadchanim very much, no offense to any particular ones…)
rabbi bursztyn in the best!!!!!! i just had to say that.
rabbi lewenstein is also very nice.July 27, 2010 8:27 pm at 8:27 pm #1120205
hatzlocha to all.July 27, 2010 9:13 pm at 9:13 pm #1120206
I really think its time the CR open its own shidduch venue. And it could be done with ease; if I’m looking for a girl with xyz values, and one of the members has such values (as evident from their posts) I would contact the Moderators and ask them to pass them my real world contact information. Then, if from what they see from my posts, they agree that a tachlis conversation is in order, we move to step 2.
Vastly different from standard on-line venues, as in the CR subjects of all sorts have been discussed, so you get to see what makes a person tick before they are putting up a smokescreen. And $3000? Please, thats disgusting. We could do our own legwork and pay the Mods a flat fee of (well, not sure what that number should be, but I’m certain we could discuss that on another thread:)July 28, 2010 3:25 pm at 3:25 pm #1120207
Sounds interestingJuly 30, 2010 2:05 am at 2:05 am #1120208
just spoke to mrs gitty rupp from shaindel’s list. she is not a shadchan. she is part of a group of regular women (nor shadchanim) that meets 6 times a year to network. but thanks shaindel for the postJuly 30, 2010 5:39 pm at 5:39 pm #1120209
this is a list forwarded by tons of pple many times i cant take responsiblity for any of the listed shadchanim although i thought pple would appreciate the list b/c there are well know shadchanim on it as well THE MODERATORS CAN TAKE IT OFF IF THERE’S A PROBLEMJanuary 3, 2011 5:37 pm at 5:37 pm #1120210
I just came across this list. It’s a very good list. Being that it’s months old, can anyone add any names and possibly make remarks on the area of expertise (Litvish, college boys, working boys, different ages)?January 3, 2011 9:53 pm at 9:53 pm #1120211
The best Shadchen is Roth Rabbi Pinchas D. 323-573-1136, 732-367-0241 Lakewood, N.J. he is expensive but gives his whole heart! keep up the grat workJanuary 3, 2016 11:37 pm at 11:37 pm #1120213
Are there any other shadchanim/ organizations in BP, Williamsburg or Monsey that one can go to that focuses on mainstream chassidish shidduchim?January 5, 2016 12:44 am at 12:44 am #1120214
check out kesher brooklyn
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