Dowries in Shidduchim

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    Joseph
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    Throughout Jewish history, there’s been a minhag of the Kallah’s family giving the Chosson a dowry. Where does this tradition stem from?

    And how does it take its form in modern shidduchim in various frum communities? In the Yeshivish/Litvish community typically the girls family pays for the majority of the chasunah, many of the starting expenses for the young couple, etc. And of course the girls family frequently pays the high cost of supporting the new family while the husband learns in Kollel. How does it work in the Chasidish and Sefardish communities?

    Do any kehilas still give cash dowries, as it was done in Europe for many centuries?

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    Joseph
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    👑RebYidd23
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    gavra_at_work
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    Throughout Jewish history, there’s been a minhag of the Kallah’s family giving the Chosson a dowry. Where does this tradition stem from?

    Nichsei Melug. Part of the reason of the Kesubah is as a pre-nup that she gets anything she brought into the marriage, including lands used to support her.

    If she does bring in Nichsei Melug, then she can sit in her own chambers and knit, with the husband responsible to support her.

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    Excellence
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    I care nothing about a dowry.

    There are parents who won’t approve a woman for their son if the inlaws who don’t have a dowry. Lucky I’ve only read about it. If I were to be in the same room as one I might have blasted them to the stone age….

    Despicable people. Interfering in their kid’s dating when they themselves got married.

    Lucky I am not on the Heavenly Court.

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