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No matter how long your engagement is, it always proves to be a challenging time for the chosson & kallah. What are ways to make it less awkward and uncomfortable? Also, how many times is is suggested that they meet/speak?
Some tips:
Short engagement.
Minimize contact.
No texting.
Minimize contact.
Always keep in mind that it’s easy to misunderstand each other, so be careful what you say, how you say it, and how you interpret what the other says.
Minimize contact (did I mention that already?)
+1 for DY.
(If you want a long engagement than you should change from minimize contact to eliminate contact.)
Minimize and/or eliminate contact towards what end?
Minimize towards the goal of reducing unnecessary tension, friction, and misunderstanding, and having fewer aveiros.
Is it better to have tension, friction, and misunderstandings after the marriage?
I guess you agree to the aveiros part. This itself might override your concerns.
I disagree with your concerns, though. A lot of the relationship issues are based on ????? ??? ?”? ???? ????????, so I disagree with your implication that contact during the engagement would diminish the problems which can occur afterwards.
I don’t think the relationship can fully develop until ???? ????????, and trying to do so, too much, too early, is detrimental.
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