It says a million times in the Torah that we should love the Ger. Does this also apply even when one is married to a ger? Can one divorce a ger? If so, is it worth it? Think about how many mitzvahs the spouse would lose out on.
Maybe a mutual divorce could be arranged, where each spouse would agree to love to hate each other?
I technically had to convert (mother had a non-Orthodox conversion), and was dumped by an ex-fiancee.
I don’t think divorcing a ger is a wise thing to do. I wouldn’t think G-d looks on it too favorably.
Stay married & enjoy the perks of marriage, as well as fulfilling all 36 edicts in the Torah to love a Ger.
This is also one of the 10 commandments of marriage as per the tapes of Rav Avigdor Miller ZT’L.
doesnt it depend on the situation????
Bring proofs, dont tell us how you think HKBH thinks or how you think he looks at things.
Staying married will cause more hatred. Get devorced and love the Ger from a distance, like the rest of us who aren’t married to this Ger.
The Gemara in Kedushin, second Perek, says that Ve’ahavta Arei’acha Kamocha is a reason not to marry someone you wouldn’t like. I’m pretty sure Ve’ahavtem Es Hager works the same way.
uneeq – I don’t think a Ger is any different than anybody else regarding this.
I think there are too many divorces nowadays, not for the right reasons, with E/o.
I think if we were living in the time of Chazal -the Bottei Dinim would not allow all the Gittin that occur in our day & age!
When divorcing a ger/ores spouse, you are being mezakeh other yidden to be able to marry and love the ger/oyes. Being mezakeh other yidden (mezakeh es ha’rabbim) is also a great mitzvah – sometimes even at the cost of one’s own mitzvah! (examples in gemarah: freeing an eved to make a minyan or for mitzva of pru u’revu).
A ger is a Jew. Treat a ger with the same Ahavas Yisroel and chessed that ALL Jews deserve. That might also mean divorcing that person, NOT because he or she is a GER, but because the marriage is irretrievably broken down, and it is a mitzvah d’Oraisah to give a get to a wife when called-for.
Shmendrick: Excellent answer. You got me thinking about an amazing mitzvah. Every ger could marry up to 4 women, being mezakeh the rabim AND help take care of the shidduch crisis. (Rabbenu Gershom will be mochel I’m sure)
It feels weird when a joke thread gets serious responses. I inadvertently ended up being a troll.
The takana expires in 2054, no?