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Would the shadchan care that I was suppose to meet her 2 months ago and never showed up and now I am calling her next month for another appointment?
It depends on the following:
Had you arranged a specific day and time that you were supposed to come?
Did you call to say you weren’t coming or did you simply not show up?
Did you call afterwards to apologize and/or explain?
Did she call you to find out why you didn’t come?
So can you clarify what exactly you mean when you say that you were supposed to meet her 2 months ago and never showed up?
Thank you.
With few exceptions, a shadchan relies upon her/(his) time to earn a parnassah. They are professionals who should be treated in the same way you would call ahead to reschedule a meeting with your lawyer, doctor, real estate broker, etc. While most will give you a “one-time” dispensation on the theory you forgot the appointment or were unavoidably detained, you should at least apologize for the prior “no-show”. Even if they are doing the shadchanus with no charge, they are still entitled to respect for their time.
It doesn’t sound like a problem to me. If you want, when you call her again, you can start off by saying something like this:
“Hi, it’s Rebshidduch. I spoke to you a few weeks ago about the possibility of arranging a meeting and I sent you my resume, but I didn’t have an opportunity to call back to schedule a meeting until now. But I would like to do so now if you are available.”
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