Syag l’chochma: Well, why is it not my husband’s role to inspire me in MY endeavors, both personal and professional? Be a source of inspiration or comfort for the me so I can accomplish things.
Nobody said he can’t or won’t. Different people have different intrinsic roles. That speaks to what makes up their essence and what their natural strengths are. Ya know how you can have a friend who REALLY knows you and is REALLY great at helping you work things thru? Well if that friend was out of reach for a bit, and you had to work things thru with a different friend, nobody is saying that second friend won’t be able to do an amazing job for you, but there are differences between a good friend, and a friend who understands you thoroughly even before you explain things.
This is how I understand roles. There are different character traits in different people, and there are different core strenghts and abilities in different people. And just because women were created with a certain essence, that does not mean that each individual woman is tapped into that. Rabbi Tatz said there are feminine traits and strengths but they can be in a man or a woman.
For instance (example for illustration) – if it is accepted that empathy is more of a feminine trait than you may find more women in empathetic jobs/vocations/positions. But should a woman find herself not to be such a person, she may choose, for herself, quite a different job. And a man who finds himself to be highly empathetic may find himself among many women in a nurses station or special ed school. But that does not change the reality that empathy is a feminine trait possessed more deeply by women.
Does that clarify? I don’t believe I could ever do it as they do, they each speak an hour.