BYM
You are right you won’t find any shiurim about “Man’s Tafkid in the home”, nor will you find shiurim about the interchangeble roles for men and women.
They are’nt there.
You see there are very basic differences in Judaic philosophy and secular feministic philosphy.
Feminism view the man and the woman as two distinct peaple who may join together in a partnership for one reason or another.
Now even if they “partner” up they remain iindividuals.
Judaisim is diametrically opposed to that.
In Parshas Bereshis we learn Chava was taken from the body of Adam and the Torah then enjoins us when we marry to be as “one body”.
We do not just form a partnership we “unite” we become one.
That is the goal.
The goal is for a man and woman to join together and build thier home, one home.
Now the Home that they are supposed to create is not one for themselves.
Rather we are trying to create a home that fulfills the mission G-d gave us.
In Pirkei Avos we are enjoined to view ourselves as “workers’.
So let’s look at the home as our “buisness”.
In a buisness there are different people with different roles to play.
How does a good employer find workers?
You try and find the ones who are most suited to the job, one’s that have a particular skill set.
Now what would happen if the graphic artist would walk in and attempt to take over the copy writer’s job and then the copy writer would take over the sale’s manager and the sale’s manager would take over the graphic artist’s job?
It would be disaster.
Now how about when they all play the role’s they are emeant to.
They all do their job’s properly.
Who is responsible for the finished product?
The all are.
And a succesful company is one that has the top in all categories that work in unison together,
A home is the same.
Hashem created man and woman differently.
They have different skill sets, any objective person will can see that.
If they don’t fight and compete with each other. Rather they both perform the roles they are meant to, then together they will build a great home.