hashtorani – you cannot claim historical precedent for the naturalness of that way of marriage, as you have to factor in the new phenomena of women being the sole or equal breadwinner.
interjection – Your clearly defined idea of finances in marriage are just not in accordance with halacha, as has been clarified on this thread several times already. If you are referring to what you believe should be mutually agreed upon these days, for whatever reason, then say so. But by definition, no, there is a question of control. And it is not indicative either way of the idea of the unity in marriage. There def. can be defined area’s of control in a marriage, due to each’s strength’s etc, irregardless of the strength of their bond.