BYM
First off B”H yes I am married with children K”h.
Secondly we seem to be speaking in two different directions.
All agree that if a leg contains a growth ch”v that is inoperable and the only way to ensure that a life is saved is to remove the leg, then it is best to remove it.
I am quite sure that after the operation the person who’s life is saved on account of the removal of his leg is quite happy and is better off then if the leg was not removed.
However at the same time it is a tragedy that the person lost his leg. And tht person is I am sure sad that he no longer has his natural leg.
Marriage is the same thing.
We are not Goyim.
We do not marry because “personally” it’s more enjoyab;le. Nor do we have children because “personally” it’s more enjoyable.
We marry and we build a home because that is a fundemental part of our job in this world.
That is a main part of Parshas Bereshis and is a statment that is emphasized by Chazal “Man was created to reproduce” Tractate Chagiggah Daf Beis Amud Beis)”.
If the Marriage that was supposed to build a Bayis Ne’eman B’Yisroel fails for whatever reason.
Then yes it is a tragedy of untold proportions.
It is a tragedy so great that Chazal tell us the Mizbeach sheds tears.
At times yes, it is a needed tragedy, at times there is a situation in which the Torah commands us to disolve the marriage.
Where a person’s life is in danger the Torah commands us to remove the leg.
Yet it is tragic.
And perhaps if we would keep this in mind more and the influences of the outside culture less then there would be more Sholom Bayis and less divorce.