OCbachur – I have to say it always amazes me how many of the posters here are so frum when it comes to defending Torah and standing up to those whom they believe distort it, but they seem to be so lacking when it comes to their emunah and bitachon in Hashem and their belief that he is present in their every moment.
You want to start dating when you are in college? you want to wait until you are rich? you want to date during your last semester? It doesn’t matter, date when you feel you are ready to be looking for someone with whom you can build a bayis neeman. Hashem will “worry” about when you actually find them.
My mother used to solicit donations from some very frum yidden to support other yidden. Many of these bnei Torah had a very difficult time giving my mother money for people to use toward fertility treatments. Their problem was that if these people didn’t have money for treatments, how could they have money to raise a child. From a Gd fearing Jew, to get such a response!
My mother would tell them that often the baby comes first and then the money to support it. And only as much as Hashem decides to give them. And that had proved itself over and over. These are not your cheshbonos to make.