I think the right for the father to bond with the baby is only once the baby can be without the mother… before that it’s up to the mother whether she wants to be with him. If he wants to bond with the baby before, he should make sure to be nice to the mother :).
And for this reason, I never take care of my kids at all until they are old enough to be without their mother.
(Real response: Maybe the mother was at fault in the relationship. And why should it be different based on the parents’ relationship? Cannot the father hold the baby for 20 minutes even if the mother hates him?)