That’s what I’m getting at. So you do agree that you would want to know about it, you just feel that it depends how severe a sin. You agree that the past is more than just a history book. My example was also about a real turn-around, which is why I set it long into the marriage, when you got to know him as a real nice person, which he is — now.
Well, most people would be quite horrified to find out one day that their close and trusted spouse had a very different past than what they imagined. I think it might help if you think about yourself finding out stuff about him a year into your marriage, rather than coming up with rational for someone else to accept you no matter what comes their way.