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Logician: I searched through michtav 30, and I’m not sure what your referring too?

“R’ Yisrael Salanter says clearly that you give someone what they want”

where does he write this?

If you mean the concept of doing the opposite for your friend, this would establish an important concept, but I don’t think this would answer the question, even if shimon were to understand that his “avodas hamidos” should be practiced on himself, this does not define “kumocha”.