Let’s realize that there are always people who do things wrong and try to justify it.”
Let’s realize that there are always people who do things that may SEEM wrong to other people, who may hold by a different hashkafa and sometimes fail to recognize that the first person’s hashkafa might ALSO be valid, according to his poseik. Saying that someone is doing things “wrong,” (when it is entirely possible it is permissible under HALACHA), is why there is a lack of respect. And to be fair, it is often on BOTH sides.
BTW I identify as Modern Orthodox. I fully covered my hair after I married my husband, I do not wear pants, short skirts (and at my age that would look ridiculous anyhow, so B”H for Tznius), short sleeves, or clothing that intrinsically screams for attention. Do I do some things “wrong?” Probably, as do we all. And that is why I ask my local Rov how to do things the right way.