OurTorah – I don’t know what your personal matzav is, but time has a tendency to smooth out many rough edges in relationships. Without knowing much about your situation, it is of course, hard to assess it so I sincerely apologize in advance for sticking my nose where it does not belong. Please give both yourself AND your parents a chance, and try to view things from their perspective, as well as your own. It’s not easy to do that, but you might be surprised at what you come to realize.
There is an old moshol about a young man who said when he was 20, his father was the stupidest man he ever knew, but when he was 40, he was shocked at how much smarter his dad had gotten in 20 years.
Many of us are like that and we butt heads with our parents, because we don’t “get” that maybe, just maybe they might know a thing or two more than we do. It’s only with time, that we come to realize that not everything we thought at one time, was actually correct. And when we are respectful in expressing ourselves to them, they listen a little more closely to what WE are saying, too.
Perspectives change with experience and maturity. It takes some of us longer than others, and a lot of time is lost and wasted on unecessary agita.