Oomis! Thank you for taking the time to share your wise advice! My story in short goes like this. I became more frum in seminary because my eyes had been opened to a whole new side of life id just never been exposed to. I tested the waters and have found a comfertable niche. BAruch Hashem I continue to grow, and learn from every Jew. My parents ovbiously love me but it is extremly hard for them to understand “whwre rhey went wrong”. When parents r relgious and raise you relgiously and then you change from that religious course they set you on its very hard for then to understand why. Thank God like you said time has done wonders but still its been veey challenging trying to get hem to understand the type of boy I want to marry and the lifestyle I want to lead.
I so look at it as such a bracha though. Often when we change because we are inspired it is hard to keep it. But thank God since I have stuck with my beleifs and happily so throughout this tough time I have been lucky enough to now have deep strong roots and bezras Hashem pass on the ahavas yisroel and ahavas and yiras Hashem I have been building and continue to build. I know my parents are older and wiser. But I know that I need to do what is right between Hashem and I and how I can become closer to Hashem. Yes you can say wait and give that time. But every minute that im not being myself im missing out on growth, ability to do mitzvos and chessed and tikkun olam. I wont just drop halacha just because my parents arent happy with who I am. I am respectful and happy and show them that I am still me in my essence just with personal bein adam lemakom changes.