” Do we really keep all the mitzvot that HASHEM has given us properly? Do we really need to wear tziztit , teffilin and dance in Simcha Torah to feel fulfill and the love to HASHEM?”
I agree with all that you say, BUT – though we women do not need to wear Tzitzis or tefillin, which are obligatory on men only, dancing is not an obligation, it is an expression of simcha, and SIMCHA is a mitzvah gedolah incumbent on both men and women. If one grows up in an environment where dancing as an expression of simcha has always been done, that person would never say that men alone should be allowed to express themselves thus. They would understand that many women, too, feel the joy and want to express it (in a tzanua manner, of course). It is not a desire to be like men, or a desire to be chauvinistic – it is that many women feel the need for the SAME OUTLET that is available to the men. As long as it is within halachic guidelines, what skin is coming off anyone’s nose for women to be able to express themselves joyfully, as men have done for centuries? Didn’t Miriam take the women off to dance after the crossing of the Yam Suf? I think we make WAY too much of this issue, and it is the fact that people make an issue at all, that creates a feeling of “second-class citizenship” in many Jewish women frum and not frum alike. JMO (the non-Dancing Queen)