This thread started out questioning the frumkeit of girls who wear skirts that don’t completely cover their knees. Would you put the word “frum” in quotes in the following sentence: “Recently there has been an outbreak of “frum” people speaking lashon hara”? Who are you (or any of us) to judge who is frum and who isn’t? Nobody is perfect.
Some people clearly feel very strongly about this perceived lack of tznius and that’s their prerogative, but to insinuate that someone is not frum because she doesn’t follow your standards?! (I use the word “perceived” because the specific halachos of tznius are NOT uniformly agreed-upon and those who dress in shorter skirts or lower necklines than others may in fact have rabbinic approval for these standards.)
This is a topic that has come up many times over the years here in the coffee room, and I’ll reiterate my standard rule: Ask your rabbi what you should do and don’t impose your rabbi’s psak/chumra/minhag on others.
How about being dan l’kaf zechus and instead of assuming a girl in a short skirt is an evil sinner, assume she either has a heter for her skirt length or she’s struggling to work through her issues? There are nicer ways to tell someone her skirt may bit a bit shorter than she realizes without questioning her frumkeit, and we can certainly use a little more niceness in the world 🙂