oomis1105,
Do I feel that not keeping kosher and not being properly tsniusdic is the same? It does not depend on how one feels about it — it depends on how Halocha views it. Eating treif meat is a lav, but so is not being properly covered ( lifnei iver). As far as “how I feel goes” — I get very upset when I see frum women walking around not properly dressed.
Telling men to control it is like telling a person whom a doctor hits on the knee with a small medical hammer to make sure his leg does not kick.