BS”D:
MDD:
I’m not interested in the argument (there is a Din of “Lasheves Yitzra” which applies to women (for another thread)), but you are not being honest and are misdirecting. The Rama you quote brings a Yesh Omrim that a woman should not be without a husband due to Chashad. If it doesn’t apply to all the single women out there (to our shame), it doesn’t apply to someone who decides not to get married.
Besides, at best the Din is a Gezairah, not an “obligation”.