Wolf:
“But if you have to enforce halacha observance in your household, then your household is in serious trouble.”
It depends. There are times that your wife and kids do something wrong due to lack of knowledge/education. However the basics shouldnt require enforcement. If your 10 year old hild is opening lights on Shabbos you have a problem. If your wife doesnt know “on her own” to shop for Tzniusdik clothing you have a very big problem.
What bothers me is why are “frum” clothing stores selling this shmutz to our women. Not that I believe in over policing things but let all the concert ban Rabbis be busy with the real problems. Let them talk to the store owners and ban their stores if they dont listen.