I have been pondering this topic post for some time now and I was thinking, at the core of it, why is Tznius really so problematic today. Why are women dressing this way?
Now some would say that its because the styles that are being sold and promoted in clothing stores. However the truth is that these styles can be tailored to be more Tzniusdig, additionally, why are the Jewish stores selling these styles to begin with? Why is there a Jewish market for it?
What lies at the root of the problem in my opinion is an influence from the goyim and a desire to be like them whether consciously or subconsciously through social conditioning. I think that we have allowed goyish society to take root amongst us in a very major way. What do I refer to?
Many frum people who consider themselves very frum read non the new york post, daily news and other shmutz papers. Many have these papers and shmutz magazines delivered to their houses. They also read non Jewish novels all of which have a number of pages dedicated to the very detailed portrayal of steamy love scenes. Its nauseating.
What you look at and read has a powerful hashpaah on how you think and on your sensitivities and priorities. If you take in the goyish ideas, over time you just begin to want it and you dont even realize it, you just think that thats normal. You dont realize that the idea was implanted in your mind from the 1000s of prust newspapers and magazines you read.
Then theres the worse influence of TV and movies. But you will say most frum people dont have tv?! Well today you dont need one. You can download or rent any Tv show or movie directly from the internet. You can have movies delivered to your home…When you watch movie after movie it breaks down your spiritual awareness. You start to want to be like the goy and start to think what you saw on the tv show and movie is normal. Consciously or subconsciously you want to start being “cool” and stylish like the goyim you see on the screen. The women see how the men all obsess over women in these tv shows and movies and its all about sex and prustkiet. Instead of it disgusting us we start to think that yes this is normal this is how it should be and women start wanting to look “hot” so that men will lust after them and look and admire them for their beauty.
This all comes from the goyish media that many people allow into their homes. If you think it doesnt have an effect on you, you are foolish and in major denial. There have been plenty of studies that rape and violence has gone up in society due to the things that people see on tv and movies. What you watch and read has a huge effect on you.
A Jew should get all his ideas from Torah sources. The more we allow non Jewish media into our homes, the more our hearts and minds will want to be like the goyim.
If you want the Pritzus problem to go away, get the goyish influence out of our lives. I could be wrong but my mind tells me that there is not one girl who dresses untzniusdig that never watched a movie or doesnt read non jewish magazines or doesnt listen to non Jewish music. The yetzer horah to be untznius doesnt come to a pure girl who watches her eyes and ears.