dunno:
Well, at the very least, you can agree that according to my standard, what happens in geulah is not ok, and while I don’t know if I’d impose what Gateshead does, I can certainly understand it.
In any event, why don’t you tell me a bit more about your standard. You think it is ok if “there’s a chance of a shidduch coming about.”
So, it seems you agree it is inherently wrong, but you see an exception if a shidduch may come about, much as I see an exception for dating.
How far are you willing to take that? Is it ok for 15 year olds to have a relationship because they might get married in 6 years? So exactly when does it become ok? Do you think many of the guys we are talking about are even remotely thinking about getting married?
Also, you make me curious whether you intend to cut off all ties with your guy friends after you get married. (I don’t remember whether you are married, or if you told us. Sorry.)