Doped up –
dressing provocatively, quote on quote, is one of the worst possible things for a bas yisrael to do – something that causes others do fall into aveiros of the worst order cannot be justified under any circumstances. I would go so far as to say yehareig ve’al ya’avor – get killed rather than follow your misguided advice.
I sing with gusto every Friday night, “sheker hachein v’hevel hayofie”, so if what’s attracting you to your wife is her physical rather than spiritual form, then your chances of success in this world and the next are worryingly slim – probably as slim as that girl you’ve got your eyes on.
someone who comes up with such dei’os has lost the mandate to offer opinions. I can only try and be dan lechaf zechus (which is quite hard) and say that you were exaggerating your opinions to ridiculous levels.
Best of luck.