workaholic: i’m not so familiar to the extent of not talking to the chosson before the wedding. But wouldnt your future in laws be happy that you feel good about your decision? As Haleivi pointed out, its compeletly normal to have doubts, most everyone does. But only meeting someone for such a short time does give you the right to request one more meeting. Its a major life decision after all.
Stamagoy: Sometimes airing an issue to strangers who are willing to listen and make time to listen and respond is easier than talking to someone you know, such as this case where the OP feels uncomfortable and unsure if she should bring up the issue with her family. A stranger in the street is not ready to stop sit down and listen and/or give advice. As opposed to CR posters who sign in to listen and give advice.