Jfem, you would like to know whose “comfort” takes precedence??
I don’t know about you, but in the Batei Medrash where I’ve been at Hakafos, one of the favorite songs, in a few different versions, is:
“Baruch Hu… She’be’ra’anu Lichvodo”
Lichvodo, v’lo lichvodeinu.
We were not created and put on this earth to find personal comfort.
At a time when we’re giving joyous thanks for the honor and privilege of having Torah in our lives, we realize that there is a higher dimension to our existence that comes before personal comfort.
This realization can make us all enjoy and treasure the day, regardless of which side of the mechitza we find ourselves on.