Agree with DY that the RY don’t believe in sacrificing the yochid for the greater good. And b”h for that, because the grounds for manipulating peoples’ life decisions here are far too shaky.
And in response to gavra, the girl had better not have that attitude, because she could as easily rechin that she is a reject of the entire yeshiva world (none of them were willing to marry her). Better to focus on each other’s positives and admit to one’s self that you may not be worthy of first cut (and better yet, expand your own worldview of what first cut means- that is not someone else’s job).
A girl can reasonably remain “idealistic” about learning only boys for a couple of years at best. After that, its time to broaden the search or be damned.