Patur: i guess i didn’t choose the right words to express myself… i didn’t mean it from a halachik standpoint… I meant that because I understood that perhaps i’d feel better about his appearance after he’d shaved, I gave it another go… had he shown up clean shaven on the first date, I wouldn’t have had any hope that my perception of his appearance would have a chance to improve… I know this might sound confusing and backhanded because i left out many other details about my experience with this particular guy that have nothing to do with this topic… My decision to go out with him again was based on many factors,(we went out a few times over the three weeks) as was my decision to end it… meaning that the beard was not the make it or break it over here!!
Perhaps i did not need to weave in my personal experience to make my point which is that if the ONLY thing a girl is unhappy with about a guy on a first date is circumstantial facial hair, she should be understanding that it’s a temporary thing and she should continue to get to know him. If everything else goes well, she’ll eventually get to see him without the beard…