But it bothers me when they say it’s wrong to have it.
Al tarbeh is not a halachah, merely advice – not that it means don’t follow it, but you shouldn’t base a psak on it.
Let me get this straight – it bothers you when someone says it’s wrong to disregard Chazal’s advice?
Also, is ???? ??? ?????? ?? ????? ??? ??? also merely advice, despite it appearing in the Shulchan Aruch (with the word ????)?