DY, I agree with you, and on a communal level, certainly we should do everything we can. On a personal level, regarding choices people make priorities in potential spouses, that involves a discussion of bechira. I was simply trying to cover the anonymous single reading, (or parent, friend etc) who is being realistic, being fair in their decisions, is frustrated with things and knows reality very well and, as I see it, has no benefit to be reminded of it. Mr. Rechnitz touched on a similar note in his response, and this here bothered me as well. I’m absolutely being hypersensitive but wanted to say my piece. Thank you for responding.
On the topic in general, everyone seems to be assuming single means girls. I was shocked once when I did a mental count and came up with more single guys than girls.