Note that I’m NOT negating the value of marriage, especially in a Torah society, but rather noting that even those who are NOT currently married are still capable of living happy lives full of meaning and value, without crying at the approach of each birthday or shrieking every time the phone rings.
I fully agree. I am merely taking this writer to task for blaming and being angry at frum culture for her very understandable feelings. She should indeed try to live a life full of meaning and value, and recognize that at this point in her life, Hashem has a tafkid for her other than raising a family.
At the same time, I am recognizing that I, and others who through chasdei Hashem have been blessed with our own families, should do our best to make singles feel like important, valued members of klal Yisroel.
In fact, just today, I showed how much I value an older bachur by giving him the tremendous kibud of gelilah. 🙂