I think that my conclusion (to what I admit was a wall of text) was that a lot of the issues that singles have are caused in some way by the family- and child-centric values and infrastructure of Judaism, which we can’t really do much about. All we can try to do is promote person-by-person awareness.
That’s pretty much* what I’m saying. My objection is to the anger and the blame.
*Except, rather than “which we can’t really do much about”, I would say, “which we are proud of” (the values and infrastructure, not ch”v the pain).