don’t use me as an example, I was agreeing with the author and disagreeing with you.
The author and I BOTH understood our own value and that a shidduch would come when the time is right. It is society who has decided the deadline. You are completely missing the point she, I and PAA are making. It isn’t about whether or not marriage is important, it isn’t about whether or not we can sense our own value, it is about the people around us who think that if it is important to be married, than those who are not married cannot possibly feel/be important. And worse than that, they project their sense of pity upon us, expecting that we can’t possibly feel any intrinsic value if we have (gasp) reached 23 unmarried.