DaasYochid:
So it seems as if the only thing we are disagreeing about is whether or not a woman (or perhaps a man) has the right to cast a certain amount of blame on society for its role in causing her(or him) to feel [insert emotion here].
Actually I think we argue about one other point as well. You said “I don’t think that vacuum exists. I think the issue is that nothing is as valued as her role in marriage, not that other things aren’t considered accomplishments.” I agree that in theory they are considered accomplishments but they are rarely if ever spoken about or stressed in any significant way such that the general populace when seeing an older single would realize not to pity her.