I don’t believe that singles disagree that society should value marriage to the extent that we do. They all (with rare exception) want to get married sooner rather than later.
They say we shouldn’t only focus on the fact that they aren’t married but they also say that we should constantly make lists of the single guys and girls (I call my married friends ‘girls’, too) that we know and try to set them up.
All they want is the same thing anyone ever wants. They want to be viewed by who they are as a person and not by their circumstance of which they have no choice. They want you to notice everything they have accomplished and not to notice the things that are not yet on the table. And, if you can think of a good shidduch for them, they want you to be proactive and set it up.