Letakin Girl- Wow! Thats so nice of you to notice!
I personally went through an extremly eye opening life experiance where I changed hashkafa from a more modern perspective to a more yeshvish perspective. I realize that when I was more modern it did not occur to me that the charedi perspective could be right, they were simply “more frum” than I was and I was ok with that. But then I learned about their perspective, I learned about Chassidish people, Open orthodox people, non relgious people. I realized that where I was religiously was not where I wanted to be, but not because Modern Orthodoxy is incorrect. Rather MO had a few irks that I found solved in the hashkafa I now hold. I have taken with me the beautiful values I grew up with as a member of the MO community, but have infused it with lots of new halachos I learned.
I try to see each person I encounter as someone who can teach me something and will help me grow.I realize we are all born into different families with different views on Torah and the world. And as we get older we usually grow into our own niche, but most people fail to realize other niches exist out there, whether they are correct or incorrect.
But me going and yelling at someone that they are not following torah propoly, or the way I see as proper is not going to get me anywhere. I realize that they might not be at the level I am or vice versa.How will yelling solve anything. I respect every Jew because I give them the benefit of the doubt that they are striving for better, but this is where they are. They were born a certain way, have grown up with certain values and I probably will not change them. But if I can hopefully get a message across that I have respect for them, but I disagree with them, or have a different opinion I try to do it that way. People respond respectfully and we have a meaningful conversation.
I hope that makes sense!