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BatMelech
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Lior I see that you commented on this topic 4 different times to say that the guy should ask his Rabbi about this. I agree with your point but if the guy tells the Rabbi how she feels about him then the Rabbi might have a different view about this girl and think badly if her and also the girl will be very embarrassed of him. I think that the guy should talk to a different Rabbi about this. I think that if the guy really thinks that she is a good girl then he should respect her and compromise with her on this topic. If she would say to cut the Rabbi out of his life completely then I would understand and maybe I would be a little concerned. But I think that if she felt offended by it and she still felt that she was ok with the guy being close to him and maintaining a close relationship with him then it shows a lot about her. If it bothers the guy so much that the girl doesn’t want his Rav to be their Rabbi and he wants to break up with her then that’s his choice and it should be respected but I see no reason that he should be saying that she is judgmental and doesn’t have Hakarat HaTov. I hope that everything goes well for them and that Hashem will give them both the clarity to make the right choice.