<Dare I say I hope you and your other half didnt guess wrong because that doesnt bode well for the halachik status of the offspring.>
That comment speaks to the degradation of the Jewish people for all sorts of reasons. Is Jewishness that much in question today? Wow. My bube was as yiddish as they come, from a shtetl.
I didn’t say we have never spoken to rabbis in our entire lives. But there’s a time and place for that. Today people attach rabbis to their hips and try to get them to run their lives. These rabbis may have less life experience than any of us. Or do you have daily access to the gadol hador?
Look at this thread. This young man has found a nice bas yisroel to marry and he might trash the whole thing because he wants some kind of marriage consisting of 3 people.