Imagine walking into a new car dealership and the dealer shows you a car, Basically you are pressured strongly to buy the car and while you can say no, you are expected to buy the car. A car is a committment for a long time and you are expected to make this decision on the car in 30 mins
Even more Lehavdil on a marriage, you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with this person and you are expected to make a decision in 30 mins.
Now what if you parents brought you to the dealership and showed you a Lexus. A Lexus is a great car and your parents would never steer you wrong, but it doesnt mean you want a Lexus. It doesnt mean you are a bad person, or anything like that, you just dont want a Lexus.