Zahavas- that’s exactly the difference of dating and beshowing. That our parents try their best. We don’t fall in love before marriage.
After marriage, is when we start loving our spouse. Some people sadly never develope that love.
But out of the Chassidish world, dating makes you “see if there’s chemistry-(supposedly), and guess what? It doesn’t always work either. Many couples have longlasting love, and some couples’ love get drastically diminished after a short while married.
Same percentages of successful marriage in all communities. Only difference is that by chassidim, the failed ones never fell in love, and by others, that the love disappeared.