Derech: for the first child, you’re correct. There’s a big difference after that. Many people, even in the yeshiva world, wait a bit before having more kids. Many Rabbonim will give a heter for short-term use of birth control after someone has a baby. Chassidim are far less likely to get such a heter. As a whole, chassidim have far more kids than non-chassidim do.
As for MO views of divorce, nishtdayngesheft is wrong. It’s not done at a whim. You’re correct that there is no stigma attached. We look at a divorced person as a regular person. From what I’ve heard, chassidim don’t. A divorcee is treated worse than the average person. MO doesn’t have a stigma with a divorce. In some cases, a divorce is warranted, sometimes even required. Again, it falls under what I said before about the reason for marriage.
nishtdayngesheft, I don’t really care whether you believe me or not. I’ve been called many things, and some of them are probably true. One thing I’m not, however, is a liar. What I told you is true. If you don’t want to believe me, that’s your problem.