Isnt talking about abuse Lashon Harah? If its Lashon harah then it cant be discussed and the average person doesnt know about it. “
Do you think people refrain from talking about it because they believe it is L”H, and NOT because they are made to feel ashamed if it happens to them? Unless I misunderstood your point – with all due respect – you could not be more wrong. When someone commits abuse, letting people know about it is NOT L”H. It is avoiding being oveir on “lo saamod al dam reyacha.” It is helping to prevent a tragedy, because abusers only know how to continue abusing. They do NOT get rehabilitated. They do not stop what they are doing. They do not CARE that they are seriously damaging and in some beyond tragic cases KILLING someone, usually their spouse or a young child. Frum, not frum, Kohein, Levi, or Yisroel, an abuser has to be stopped, no ifs, ands, or buts.