As far as comments made about teachers seeing only certain things about you go, I have received wonderful references for various reasons from teachers who barely know me.”
There you go. No one wants to say negative things about someone who is proposed as a shidduch, and bear the achrayus of messing things up for that person. No one wants to say L”H. No family friend wants it to get back to the parents of the prospective shidduch, that they spoke badly of that person’s child, even if it were warranted.