nistdayngesheft: in response to your response to the car analogy, if a parent decides that a bright red lexus with the lights that blind other drivers, a rooftop window to afford you air without having it whip your face…is best for you but yoyu felt that red is to showy, you want lights that dont blind other drivers, and you prefer no roftop window, would you buy it so quickly? Even though it has all the other ammenities and modern updates?
Yes chassidim do alot of research, so do non-chassidim.
Yes there is more trust in the chassidishe world, and with the trust of their parents, non chassidim go out with the boy/girl and finish off the ‘checking out’ of the girl/boy personally.
Like most have mentioned, you do what is good for you, which one is better? whichever one gets you to your basherte!
And what is with all the MO and Chassidishe bashing?! Kol Yisrael areivim! People, wake up! I have many acquatances of all different sides of the Jewish spectrum and i respect them all according to their standards! Whether they wear a full sheitel, a hat, no shaitel, half their hair showing, its not my place to put them down! Shame on all of us!