sorry to disappoint you, you don’t belong in a shpitzel driving in your community. Therefore you choose which one to change or both? If you feel you need to drive, simple move out and take off your shpitzel. You won’t be the first or last one unfortunately.
Seriously? She should remove her spitzel if she wants to drive?
I can understand advising her to move out of her community, because it may be better for her and her children, but to change her mode of dress because she wants to drive? I am quite shocked! I have always found your posts on target. This one is NOT.