this is where we implement the good ol’ “I” messages;
“I feel confused, because I thought we agreed that this is not what we wanted in our home, can we talk about it?”
“I feel uncomfortable bringing that into our home; I’d like to discuss this before we continue to do so, can you tell me your take on the matter?”
wife should express how it makes HER feel, and then ask him to discuss his take on the matter. they have to communicate respectfully