ZDad,
Have you ever looked up the stats on abuse?
I mean the real stats at the source, not the ones qouted in articles by “chinuch experts” and expert “phsycologists”.
You see there is a small secret that for some reason is glossed over in many articles by people interested in protecting children.
The actual term Child Abuse refers to many different things. It’s kind of an umbrella term.
Obviously it includes Child Sexual Abuse, Physical Child Abuse, as well as Abuse through Neglect.
Now when these statistics are qouted for some reason this little fact is left out.
Furthermore what’s left out is if you will go to any CPS breakdown on child abuse you will see that the most prevalent form of Child Abuse by far, and by far i mean by far, is Abuse through Neglect.
Those are the facts, plain and simple.
Child Sexual Abuse does’nt even compare to the amount of children that suffer from Neglect.
Now the most effective “cure” for neglect is a Caring Teacher who is dedicated to the child, sees the child each and every day, spends time with the child, and is invested with the child.
A teacher is the one who most simply can at least in some way provide the emotional support and warmth that the Parents cannot or will not provide in all too many cases.
Why won’t the parents provide it?
Well in some cases there are SB issues consuming them, in some cases they are physically exhausted from working themselves to the bone to provide for their children, in some cases they emotionally cannot for whatever reason.
Whatever the case may be all to often the parents are not providing it and the kids suffer.
Now you are right.
Many Rabbeim now-a-days will not show the physical affection for their talmidim they once did becuase they are afraid for their own families in the case of a nutty parent or child.
For some reason a Rebbe could have spent decades being underpaid and overworked dedicating his life towards other peoples children and literally putting his life and soul into them.
But unfortunatley it’s not enough for people to even give them the slightest benefit of doubt when 1,2,3 parents or children out of hundreds literally will accuse them and they know every hug they gave a crying child will be held against them.
So, yes a lot of Rabbeim stopped it.
And yes more and more children go off.
And for some reason no one stops to think for second.
Hey, 25 years ago were there that many children going off the Derech left and right?
Were there that many Children with real social isssues?
Were there this many problems?
Why now?
And as we get more “enlightened” there are more problems.
Anyone remember the famous JO about KIds-at-Risk?
Has it got better or worse since then.
Oh.
Wait a second.
The same “experts” telling us know how to treat our Rabbeim.
How to treat our kids.
What real “child raising” is.
Are the exact same people that laid down the policies for Americas glorious Public School system.
And yep slowly but surely our schools are looking exactly like Americas Glorious Public School system.
Funny the coincedence.
A bunch of people that have literally destroyed the American Moral Fabric, The American Social Fabric, the concept of families in America, and the Public School system in America are now on equal par with Rabbonim and Talmidei Chachomim when it comes to how to be mechanech our children.