As long as they are paying the bills, they have a vote. Pay for seminary and college yourself and you can do as you wish.
A comment which would make sense if she were considering suing her parents.
But inasmuch as we’re only discussing normal parent-child relationships, I’m not sure why we’re talking about “votes” and “rights.” Presumably her parents want to do what is good for her, and not everything they are “entitled to do.”
Funny, in the shidduch system, no one objects to the parents deciding which boys are appropriate, but in this case the parents are viewed as controlling
Funny works both ways. First figure out how you are critical the other way, and then come call us funny. Also, nobody except OP called it controlling.