PBA, that was never an issue with my kids; we were on the same page. However, two close friends dealt with situation. A son came back from Israel and announced he was not going to college and would instead become a melamed in yeshiva. My friend didn’t argue but, every time his son asked for a sefer, his father bought them and showed him the bills. Finally, the son asked what was going on. My friend responded that 12_ yrs yeshiva, yeshiva in Israel and sforim are expensive. A life as a rebbe would not allow him to provide for his future family as his father had provided for him. My friend made it clear that he would not fund a lifestyle he disagreed with. His son ultimately got Simcha at YU and bacame a CPA. PBA, you call it cutting off. I call it the parents choosing to not fund a lifestyle they disagree with. One big problem is that most children have been so shielded that they have no clue as to how much a frum lifestyle costs nor what poverty means
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